always forgive your enemies--nothing annoys them so much。尽管去宽恕你的敌人吧——没有什么比这更让他们恼火了。alexander pope (亚历山大·蒲柏)to err is human; to forgive, divine。犯错的是人；宽恕的，是神。ed howe (艾德·豪)a woman who can't forgive should never have more than a nodding acquaintance with a man。不懂宽恕的妇人永远只能是男人的点头之交。mahatma gandhi (英雄甘地)if we practice and eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth, soon the whole world will be blind and toothless。如果我们都要以眼还眼、以牙还牙，那这个世界很快就盲眼且无牙。forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past。宽恕就是不再去想以往的事情本来可以更好。
from live and learn and pass it on -age 51 选自《生活着，学习着，传承着——51岁i've learned that when you have an argument with your spouse, the first one who says, 'i'm sorry i hurt your feelings; please forgive me,' is the winner。我听说，如果和另一半吵架，先说这句话的人会是赢家——“对不起，我伤害了你的感情，请原谅我。”alden nowlan (奥尔登·诺兰)the day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them,he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise。当一个孩子意识到大人们都不完美时，他就成为青少年；当他原谅他们时，他就变成了成年人；当他原谅自己时，他便成了智者。mahatma gandhi (圣雄甘地)the weak can never forgive. forgiveness is the attribute of the strong。
弱者永不宽恕，宽恕是强者的特性。unknown (佚名)to forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you。宽恕就是释放囚犯，然后知囚犯即是你自己。jean paul richter (吉恩·保罗·里克特)humanity is never so beautiful as when praying for forgiveness, or else forgiving another。祈求宽恕和宽恕别人，再没有比此时的人性更美的了。koran 《古兰经》he who forgiveth, and is reconciled unto his enemy, shall receive his reward from god; for he loveth not the unjust doers。恕者，及与敌为和者，真主必赏之；盖行不义者不得天宠者也。henry ward beecher (亨利·沃德·比奇)i can forgive, but i cannot forget, is only another way of saying, i will not forgive. forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note--torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one。
我可以宽恕，但我不能忘记。这只是“我不宽恕”的另一种说法罢了。宽恕就得想取消一张票据一样——撕成两半，烧掉，再也无法向任何人出示。catherine ponder (凯瑟琳·庞德)when you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free。当你憎恨他人的时候，你就通过一条情感的链条和那个人或状况连在一起了。而且这个链条坚强如钢。宽恕是熔解这条链条解放自己的唯一法门。israel zangwill (伊斯雷尔 赞格威尔)the past: our cradle, not our prison; there is danger as well as appeal in its glamour. the past is for inspiration, not imitation, for continuation, not repetition。过去：我们的摇篮，而非我们的监狱；它的魅力既吸引人又充满危险。过去是用来启发灵感，而非用于模仿，可供继续，而非重复。
doc childre and howard martin, the heartmath solution 奇尔德博士及霍华德·马丁 《心智算数解决方案》as difficult as it seems, you can be sure of this: at the core of the heart, you have the power to move beyond the old issues that are still hindering your freedom. the hardest things—the ones that push you up against your limits—are the very things you need to address to make a quantum leap into a fresh inner and outer life。虽然费解，但千真万确：在你的心灵深处，隐藏着一种力量，它可以使你远离妨碍自由的陈年旧事。那些最难办的事——那些有助于突破你的局限性的事——正是你需要重点解决的事。解决了以后，能给你的精神生活和外在生活来一个大飞跃。doc childre and howard martin, the heartmath solution 奇尔德博士及霍华德·马丁 《心智算数解决方案》
in the long run, it's not a question of whether they deserve to be forgiven. you're not forgiving them for their sake. you're doing it for yourself. for your own health an well-being, forgiveness is simply the most energy-efficient option. it frees you from the incredibly toxic, debilitating drain of holding a grudge. don't let these people live rent free in your head. if they hurt you before, why let them keep doing it year after year in your mind? it's not worth it but it takes heart effort to stop it. you can muster that heart power to forgive them as a way of looking out for yourself. it's one thing you can be totally selfish about。长远的眼光来看，问题不在于他们是否值得宽恕。你宽恕他们并非为他们着想，而是为了自己。为了你自己的健康和和福利而去宽恕，这是最省事的选择。它使你远离愤懑所带来的极大毒害和精力消耗。别让这些人免租金居住你的大脑。如果他们曾经伤害你，为什么还年复一年地让他们在你的心灵中继续为害？这不值得。也要用心努力才能制止这一切。你可以集中心力去宽恕，以便找回自己。这完全是一件利己的事。
doc childre and howard martin, the heartmath solution奇尔德博士及霍华德·马丁《心智算数解决方案》take it slowly. the deepest resentments are wrapped up in a lot of hurt and pain. we think we're protecting ourselves by not forgiving. acknowledge that and go easy on yourself. forgiveness means that you've decided not to let it keep festering inside even if it only comes up once in awhile. forgiveness is a powerful yet challenging tool that will support and honor you, even in the most extreme circumstances。别急着这样想：极度的憎恨里面包含着太多伤痛。我们以为不宽恕等于自我保护。要承认以下说法并善待自己：宽恕意味着你决心不让怨恨在内心化脓，即便它每隔一会儿才爆发一次。宽恕是一种强有力但又难掌控的工具，它能给你支持、给你荣誉，甚至在极度严酷的环境下也是如此。
doc childre and howard martin, the heartmath solution奇尔德博士及霍华德·马丁《心智算数解决方案》the incoherence that results from holding on to resentments and unforgiving attitudes keeps you from being aligned with your true self. it can block you from your next level of quality life experience. metaphorically, it's the curtain standing between the room you're living in now and a new room, much larger and full of beautiful objects. the act of forgiveness removes the curtain. clearing up your old accounts can free up so much energy that you jump right into a whole new house. forgiving releases you from the punishment of a self-made prison where you are both the inmate and the jailer。长期的愤恨、不宽恕的态度带来的内心不和谐不统一，使你不能和你的“真我”结为一体，妨碍你享受更高层次的生活体验。打个比方来说，它像是一幅帘子，悬挂在你现在所住的房间和一个新房间之间。而这个新房间相对大得多、有